My daughter dating older guy
Schwyzer, on the other hand, believes that men are not hardwired to be attracted to younger women.He contends, rather, that “much of the appeal” men find in dating younger women is “the hope of finding someone less demanding.” He says, “A man in his 40s who wants to date women in their 20s is making the same calculation as the man who pursues a “mail-order bride” from a country with less egalitarian values.
Christopher Ryan of Psychology Today argues – in direct response to Schwyzer – that there’s an “innate biological desire men hold for women in their most fertile years,” and that such a desire is perfectly natural.
We’ve all heard this idea before: men are designed to want to spread their seed, so in spite of their age and inability with age to care for children, they remain attracted to women who can propagate their DNA.
Interestingly, the same survey showed that “One in three people think a bit of immaturity helps in bonding well with children,” and I concur.
Rather than allow that to make a case for older men being great fathers to infants, that should make the case for young women of childbearing age to mate with young men their own age. Young men are encouraged to be a bit more mature, but remain goofy enough to be playful dads, and young women will hopefully be able to retain a life-long partner instead of an aging and eternal player willing to discard her as soon as she turns 40, or one she wants to ditch as soon as she’s old enough to realize what she’s gotten herself into.